Why Going on Vacation without Your Kids is a Good Idea

Earlier this month, I went on a girls’ trip, and I’m about to share what I learned… or rather, what I was reminded of during that time.

But first, let me set the stage. A wonderful client of mine, who has become a close friend, invited me and two other friends to celebrate her birthday at her "second home." This beautiful place, Cuixmala, has been her peaceful retreat for years, and though she had described it many times, no words or photos could capture its magic. Cuixmala is one of those rare gems—you just have to experience it for yourself.

And while this getaway was full of beauty and tranquility, it also came with five big reminders for me—ones that I believe every mom needs to hear.

1. Mom Guilt Is Holding You and Your Kids Back

As moms, we all know that gut-wrenching feeling when we do something enjoyable without our kids. That nagging guilt creeps in, making us feel selfish, like we’re bad mothers. But here’s the truth: That guilt isn’t serving anyone—not you, and certainly not your children.

Our kids don’t learn from the advice we give them; they learn from how we live our lives. When you feel guilty for taking time for yourself, you’re robbing both yourself and your family of the benefits of a refreshed, happy version of you. You see, when you come back rejuvenated, you’re a better, more present mom. But when you carry guilt, it casts a shadow over everything—making your time away feel pointless and your return even more stressful.

I’ve taken my kids on trips when I was running on empty, and trust me, none of us enjoyed it. They can feel it when you're drained, and it impacts their experience, no matter how amazing the destination. Kids crave a happy mom more than any vacation or toy you could ever give them. Remember, they thrive when you’re at your best—so when you step away, do it unapologetically. Recharge and come back as the vibrant, loving mom they need. Disclaimer: this is not to say you shouldn’t travel with your kids….showing the world to my kids happens to be one of my favorite things.

2. Your Circle Shapes Your Life

If you ever feel stuck, take a look at who you’re surrounding yourself with. The handful of people you spend most of your time with shape your beliefs about yourself and life in general.

Let’s say you’re aiming to become the healthiest version of yourself. If you’re constantly surrounded by friends whose favorite pastime is indulging in restaurants until their zippers come undone, it becomes harder for you to believe your goals are even possible. Now, I know it’s not always feasible to just "cut people out" of your life. But what you can do is create boundaries that honor your growth without cutting ties. If you want more guidance on this, DM me on Instagram—I’d love to share how I’ve managed this balance in my own life.

On this trip, I was reminded how crucial it is to surround yourself with women who lift you up, who share your values, and who are on the same path of growth. If you’re craving more of that in your life, join me for my December retreat, where we create our vision board and set goals for the upcoming year. I’ve been doing this for the past 3 years and it has honestly transformed my life. I’d love for you to experience its magic too.

3. The People You Share Your Life With Matter More Than Anything

Cuixmala is an experience like no other—there’s no doubt about that. But what I realized on this trip was that the true magic isn’t in the luxury, the stunning views, or the 100% organic meals straight from THE LAND (our nickname for Cuixmala). It’s in the people you share those moments with.

As moms, it’s easy to feel isolated in our experiences—alone in juggling motherhood, womanhood, and the pressures of modern life. But when we spend time with people who get us, who are on the same wavelength, it’s like we’ve found our tribe. It’s a sense of belonging that fills your soul.

4. Periodically Breaking Free From Your Routine Helps You See the Big Picture!

Even with all the personal development I’ve done, it’s still easy to fall into routines that don’t serve me. We often stay in situations because they’re comfortable—even when that comfort feels more like stagnation. The brain prefers what's familiar, and over time, even unhealthy habits become the easier choice.

This is why travel is such a powerful tool. It shakes up your routine, even if just for a weekend, and forces you to reflect on what’s missing in your life. Have you ever returned from a trip feeling like you’re ready to turn your life around, only to slip back into the same patterns a few weeks later? That’s the brain at work. But if you want lasting change, you have to consciously act on those moments of clarity. And that doesn’t always require a luxury vacation. It could be as simple as eating lunch in a park or taking a different route home from work. Small shifts make big changes.

5. We Moms Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Supported

In my fourth point, I mentioned those moments of clarity we sometimes experience. Thanks to all the clean food, meditations, sound healing, yoga, and nature walks during my trip, I had many of those moments. And during one of them, I realized it’s time for me to serve my community on a bigger scale.

If you know my story and purpose, you’re familiar with the fact that my life’s mission is to make a mom’s life easier, one mom at a time. This purpose is deeply rooted in my mom’s story and my own. So far, I’ve been able to fulfill this mission through my business, The Minimalist, but now, I want to do more.

As a mom living in a big city in the 21st century, I’ve come to realize thatsign up today without our village, we can’t truly thrive. We NEED our village. Not just to vent without judgment or seek support, but to have fun, be ourselves, and embrace our identities beyond motherhood. I spent years searching for a group that was fun, supportive, and full of women I could resonate with, and when I couldn’t find it, I had to create it for my own tribe.

Now, I want to create it for you. I don’t want you to go through the years of searching and building from scratch like I did. That’s why I’m launching The Sisterhood—a membership-based community where you’ll connect with like-minded women who are as committed to growth, fun, and transformation as you are.

Starting in December, you’ll have access to this incredible group, and to kick things off, I’m inviting you to join our first retreat. This retreat is where we get clear on how we want to transform our lives. It’s a practice that has become a cornerstone for me, and everything I’ve achieved in the past year stems from doing this retreat each December.

This year, you’ll get the chance to learn my process and do it alongside me. Are you as excited as I am? If so, sign up today and join me on this journey to create the life we deserve—together!